First of all, remember this - IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT that your parents divorced. They are adults and it was their decision, not yours. You couldn't do anything to stop it from happening. It's normal to feel guilty when you experience loss, and to feel like it's your fault, but you're not to blame.

Having your parents get divorced is painful. It's easy for the kids to get ignored while the parents fight with each other. But you matter. Your pain matters.

Anger, frustration, fear, pain and unworthiness are all normal things to feel when your parents break up, and these painful things don't just go away. You have lost so much, and grieving loss takes time. Some days, it's hard to believe it happened. Some days are angry days. It's OK to be angry with people when they hurt us, even if we love them. Some days you believe that you can bring your parents back together. You can't do that. That's expecting too much of yourself. Some days you feel depressed, helpless, and sad. Often, you need help from other people, good friends, trustworthy wise adults, youth pastors and professional counselors. Don't feel guilty about asking for help. Don't feel scared it could hurt your parents, or made them angry. YOU MATTER, and it is important that you get help, so that you experience healing and acceptance and hope. There is hope for you, no matter how impossible your situation feels.